Masking: The Exhaustion of Not Being Ourselves (And not knowing what we want!)
Here is a truth that I think we often miss: We are not used to being ourselves. I’m just going to dive right in. When we are young, we start to realize that just by being our natural, unfiltered selves, people look at us differently. And because we are hyper-sensitive, we notice it more than […]
Your Subconscious Doesn’t Speak English (And That’s Why Affirmations Fail)
I’ve spent a lot of time talking to myself. Perhaps you have too? I’ve tried to talk myself into confidence and wealth, and out of anxiety. It took me years to realise that hoping for something to come true did not work. “I am successful. I am calm. I am in control. I am wealthy.” […]
The Ceiling of Your Own Mind (And How to Break Through It)
There’s a fairly familiar quote, usually attributed to Einstein: “You cannot solve a problem with the same level of thinking that created it.” It often feels like the easy route. The shortest route. We do the minimum required. But do we ever really sort it? If we’re being brutally honest, we don’t solve the problem; […]
Why are so many people becoming distracted in today’s society?
From ADHD 2.0 Hallowell & Ratey: “The reason so many people are starting to look and act distracted, as if they all have ADHD or VAST (Variable Attention Stimulus Traits), is that fewer and fewer people are spending time in the task-positive network. They are not spending enough time focusing on a single task, certainly […]